It is easy to get caught up in the charm of someone who is a narcissistic. Often, we think to ourselves that “this is too good to be true,” and when it comes to narcissism- it is. Being in a relationship with someone who is a Narcissist can lead to various forms of abuse, such as: spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical. It is important to be aware of the early signs that the person you are dating could be a narcissist.
This article mentions 7 different early warnings signs to look out for while dating. They can help protect you from future harm and hardship.
The 7 signs are:
Speedy courtship. There is a quick connection and there is a push to begin dating quickly. You feel a sort of glue like attachment; at the hip from the get go.
It seems too good to be true. Narcissists are charming. They charm the pants off those around them and whisk you off your feet. They say and do all the right things and make you think and believe they are Mr./Mrs. Perfect and Mr./Mrs. Right.
Emotional boundaries are broken quickly. They are playfully disrespectful. They excessively tease you and make constant jokes on your behalf. They brush it off as “this is how you know I like you” or “you know how I am” or "you're too sensitive; you have zero sense of humor."
Physical boundaries are broken quickly. They push your limits. They touch you early on and initiate sexual acts. When you ask them to calm the physical things down- they either do not listen, or say just the right things you want to hear. However, their behavior says otherwise.
Masking. They put on a perfect show. When they need to impress someone the charm oozes out, but once that person is gone their character changes - even slightly. Once they know you are fully committed and fully invested (exclusive relationship, engagement, marriage) their mask slips off and their character changes permanently. You see the other side of the coin and they do not treat you as they once did.
Overwhelming gifts and attention. They shower you with love and attention. They buy extravagant gifts, and constantly bring you “surprises.” They are overly touchy. This is called love bombing, meaning they overboard you with loving gestures (insert flowers, words of affirmations, false promises, excessive apologies). Their love bombing aims to control and reign you back in.
Prince Charming. They are the smooth talkers. They can charm themselves out of any situation. Narcissists are overly charismatic. While in public they put on an act to seem as if they are the greatest and most perfect person in the world or at least in your world.
While dating, it is important not to rush things. Take everything one step at a time. Pay attention to words AND actions. If something feels off, trust your gut. Do not brush your gut feelings under the rug. If you feel the need to constantly defend and “talk up” the person you are dating- they probably are not as awesome as they are portraying to be. It shows an indication that you don't trust them enough to stand on their own. You have to step up and protect them because nobody understands them like you do.
Dating a narcissist is a serious and potentially dangerous situation.
If you are dating someone who you believe is narcissistic, it is best to get out or get help from a trusted professional. If you or someone you love needs help, please do not hesitate to give us a call and we would be happy to answer any questions you may have. Please call 801-642-4473 or simply click the link below.