Updated: Jul 9
Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD, often has tell tale symptoms but they can be hard to identify due to other issues taking precedence.
Example, a 19-year-old woman is struggling with heavy drinking. Families and most therapists would focus on the drinking, which makes sense, but is actually a symptom of BPD. While it’s absolutely imperative to focus on sobriety, many therapists focus too much on the drinking and not enough on the root of the problem, BPD.
This doesn’t mean that everyone who drinks is BPD, it’s simply pointing out the importance of therapists doing a proper screening for all symptoms, not just sobriety.
Five symptoms that women with BPD exhibit are:
1. Cutting / Self-Harm
Cutting is defined by someone using something sharp to harm themselves. An example of this can be cutting yourself with a razor or pair of scissors (anything sharp). In most cases, women with BPD say that cutting relieves feelings of anxiety and stress.
This topic is tricky because impulsivity is defined as “acting without thinking.” This can carry over into many areas, including relationships (not maintaining healthy boundaries), overspending and reckless driving.
3. Identity Disturbance
Women with BPD struggle to hold down a job and have a shaky sense of self. They have poor self-esteem and often use negative self-talk, which can be challenging to be around. They have continual suicidal thinking and gestures and make continual threats.
4. Splitting (Black & White Thinking)
Splitting is placing someone into a category: good or bad / hero or villain. This way of thinking usually is triggered if a woman with BPD faces something she doesn’t like, such as criticism or strong feedback, she will split and begin to think in extremes.
5. Rocky Relationships
This symptom is a hallmark for BPD. Most Borderlines lean toward the dramatics when they come up against firm boundaries. Sometimes they go into victim mode and create chaos in relationships, engaging in push and pull behaviors.
Treating Borderline Personality Disorder takes an expert and skilled therapist. At One By One, we specialize in treating girls exhibiting Borderline symptoms and women struggling with BPD.
If any of these symptoms sound familiar, don’t hesitate. Get the help you need today.